In this Life Unfiltered segment from The Know Buddies 757, Jackie and Kashmir continue their “New Year, New You” series, focusing on how to create your own happiness through mindset, faith, and daily choices.
What starts as a conversation about positive thinking quickly turns into something deeper—exploring the difference between happiness and joy, and why true fulfillment doesn’t come from circumstances, but from within.
Happiness vs. Joy: What’s the Difference?
One of the first things discussed is the idea that:
👉 happiness and joy are not the same thing
Happiness is often tied to:
- circumstances
- outcomes
- external situations
But joy?
👉 comes from within—and from God
It’s something that can exist even when:
- life feels heavy
- things aren’t going right
- circumstances don’t change
We Create More of Our Unhappiness Than We Think
A powerful point from this conversation:
👉 many people unintentionally create their own unhappiness
Through things like:
- worry
- resentment
- negative thinking
- self-pity
Even though not all hardship is self-created…
👉 how we respond plays a major role in how we feel
Becoming Like a Child Again
One of the simplest—but most meaningful ideas:
👉 children naturally find joy in small things
- simple moments
- everyday experiences
- things adults often overlook
The takeaway?
👉 happiness can come from learning to see life differently again
It’s Not Just Thinking—It’s Action
This isn’t just about saying positive things.
It’s about:
👉 aligning your thoughts, words, and actions
Because it’s easy to say:
- “I’m going to be happy”
- “I’m going to be grateful”
But if your actions don’t match?
👉 it doesn’t stick
The “Happiness Formula”
A key concept discussed is a simple—but challenging—way to live:
- keep your heart free from hate
- keep your mind free from worry
- live simply
- expect less
- give more
- think of others
Sounds simple…
👉 but actually living it takes intention
Changing Your Thought Life
One major takeaway:
👉 your thoughts shape your experience
If you constantly expect:
- negativity
- frustration
- problems
👉 you’ll start to see it everywhere
But when you shift your mindset?
👉 your perspective begins to change
You Can’t Depend on Others for Happiness
Another important truth:
👉 you can’t rely on other people to make you happy
Whether it’s:
- relationships
- friendships
- marriage
That expectation can become:
👉 unhealthy and unsustainable
Real happiness has to come from:
👉 within yourself first
Faith: The Missing Piece
This is where the conversation goes deeper.
Because mindset alone isn’t enough.
👉 true, lasting happiness comes from God
Through:
- faith
- surrender
- spiritual transformation
Because without that foundation:
👉 it becomes much harder to sustain joy
🔥 Daily Choices Matter
Happiness isn’t something you decide once.
👉 it’s a daily choice
Even in small moments like:
- doing chores
- going to work
- handling stress
You can choose to:
👉 approach it differently
Finding Joy in Difficult Seasons
Life isn’t always going to feel good.
There will be:
- challenges
- pressure
- uncertainty
But even in those moments:
👉 joy is still possible
Through:
- perspective
- faith
- choosing not to stay stuck mentally
Surrender & Letting Go of Control
One of the deepest points in this conversation:
👉 real joy often comes from letting go
Letting go of:
- control
- expectations
- how you think life “should” look
And trusting:
👉 God’s plan instead
🔥 Final Thoughts
This segment is a reminder that happiness isn’t something you wait for.
👉 it’s something you build
Through:
- your mindset
- your actions
- your faith
Because at the end of the day:
👉 you don’t have to stay stuck in unhappiness
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