Learning to Love Yourself Beyond the Scale
In this raw and honest segment of Live Unfiltered, Jackie and Kashmir open up about something almost every woman has wrestled with — weight, body image, and self-worth. From fad diets and comparison to finding peace and faith in the middle of it all, this conversation goes deeper than numbers on a scale.
The Weight of the World — and Ourselves
“We kind of talked about weight with Ozempic and how they’re making weight loss look so easy,” Kashmir began. “But I think it’s important to be honest. Weight is something we talk about all the time — in our house, in our heads, every time we eat.”
Jackie shared how she’s been on everything from Weight Watchers to calorie tracking, and even after two years of consistent effort, lost 12 pounds — but gained perspective.
“I’ve realized no matter how skinny I am, I’ve never felt skinny enough,” she said. “It’s never enough — and that’s something I don’t want to be anymore.”
When Skinny Still Isn’t Enough
From 113 to 160 pounds, Kashmir has lived every version of her body. Yet in each season, she found herself feeling not good enough.
“At 130, I thought I was huge. At 140, I hated myself. At 160, I was desperate to go back. It took me years to realize — I was never happy because I was always chasing a version of myself that didn’t exist.”
Injury, stress, and even a demanding job all played roles in her fluctuating weight. But the hardest part wasn’t the number — it was the self-judgment that came with it.
“In every moment of my weight journey, I hated myself,” she said. “And that’s the part I’m finally trying to heal.”
From Comparison to Compassion
Jackie opened up about her own struggles — from body changes after having her daughter to growing up in environments where image was everything.
“I grew up in California where vanity was normal — boob jobs, tummy tucks, Botox — and it became the standard,” she said. “But after having my daughter and dealing with hypothyroidism, I lost so much weight that I looked sick. The scale said I was ‘doing great,’ but I didn’t look or feel healthy.”
She reflected on how damaging comparison can be — especially online.
“Instagram can be the worst,” she said. “Most people you see are really young and really skinny. I had to tell myself: stop comparing. God tells you not to compare.”
The Messages We Absorb
Both Jackie and Kashmir shared how comments from others — even well-meaning ones — shaped how they viewed themselves.
“When I was 12, people told me I had a great body and should wear a bikini,” Jackie recalled. “Adults made comments about my weight and tan. It planted this seed that how I looked mattered more than who I was.”
Kashmir connected it back to childhood memories, too:
“My dad used to call women pigs or say things about their weight. It got in my head that being fat was something to be ashamed of.”
Those experiences left lasting marks — but they also fueled a commitment to change that narrative.
Healing from the Inside Out
The conversation circled back to faith — and how both women are learning to see themselves through God’s eyes instead of the world’s.
“You can’t keep conforming to the image of this world,” Jackie said. “My mom told me that when I’d cry about how I looked. So now, when I catch myself being obsessive, I remind myself: I accept myself.”
Jackie added,
“You have to put it in God’s hands and be careful what images you’re feeding your mind. Because if you keep telling yourself you’re not enough, that’s what you’ll believe.”
The Takeaway: Self-Acceptance Is a Daily Choice
The women closed with a message to listeners who might be struggling:
“If you’ve been there — if you’ve struggled with your body, or just want to love yourself again — you’re not alone,” Kashmir said. “We’re not here to judge you. We just want to give you strength.”
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